Some might hear the phrase, “how to prepare to be a wife as a Christian,” and automatically think of the oh-so-popular idea that it’s all about submission. For those who don’t know, Biblical submission as a wife is not about control, and worse, disrespect and basically abuse from your husband. That’s not at all what it’s about!
Read my blog post, Christian Marriage: Duties of a Wife in the Bible, for more context.
Marriage is a beautiful covenant designed by God, and getting ready to be a wife as a Christian is about way more than just planning a wedding party. It takes spiritual, emotional, and practical prep. A lot of single women dream of that special day when they’ll walk down the aisle, but being a great wife takes a lot of time, effort, and biblical wisdom. You can do some of the work before you even start dating someone, because the majority of our responsibility in any relationship lies on our own emotional maturity. But much of your experience will be constant growth and learning with your husband throughout your marriage. If you want to be a good wife and build a healthy marriage, here are some key steps to help you get ready for a successful marriage and an amazing married life.
How to Prepare to be a Wife as a Christian
1. Grow Closer to God
Before you commit to a future husband, your relationship with God should be your top priority (same for your future husband, if you’re wondering what to look for in a man). A strong spiritual foundation is a key factor in creating a healthy relationship that lasts.
- Spend quality time in prayer and Bible study – Seek God’s wisdom for your future spouse and married life.
- Practice trusting God’s plan – Learn to follow God’s will in different ways and in your own way.
- Grow in faith and character – Proverbs 31 is a great way to understand what it means to be a great wife.
2. Learn to Serve with Love
A good wife loves selflessly. Jesus set the ultimate example of serving others, and as a wife, you’ll be called to love and support your husband in ways that reflect God’s love.
- Be patient and kind – Treat your family, friends, and even that one guy friend with grace.
- Work on your communication skills – Effective communication is one of the most important parts of a healthy marriage.
- Stay humble and gracious – A warm smile, an open mind, and a home-cooked meal can go a long way in making your home life inviting.
Another helpful blog post: 6 Skills for Effective Communication
3. Understand Biblical Submission
As mentioned at the opening of this blog, a lot of times, people misunderstand what biblical submission means. It doesn’t mean you have no voice—it means working together in mutual respect and letting your husband take on his God-given role.
- Respect your future husband’s leadership while still being a supportive partner.
- Encourage his vision for your family life and financial goals.
- Pray for him daily – even before you meet your future husband!
4. Develop Practical Skills for Home and Life
Being a wife often means managing a home and balancing responsibilities. Practical skills help create a peaceful and loving space.
- Learn to cook a delicious meal – A home-cooked meal is a great way to make your husband feel loved. That doesn’t mean that you always have to be the one who cooks. It’s just a loving way to care for your family.
- Practice smart budgeting – Managing financial goals is a great way to prepare for married life.
- Stay organized – A comfortable chair and a cozy home can be part of the warm welcome you offer your family.
Another helpful blog post: 6 Must-Do Tips to Manage Money in Marriage
5. Work on Emotional and Mental Maturity
A healthy marriage requires emotional intelligence and handling external pressures with grace.
- Manage emotions biblically – Unrealistic expectations can lead to disappointment, so keep an open communication style.
- Practice forgiveness – A supportive partner knows how to let go of past hurts.
- Be selfless – A good way to prepare for marriage is to shift from a “me” mindset to a “we” mindset.
6. Find Godly Mentors
Having wise, godly women in your life can give you great wisdom and additional support.
- Get a mentor – A mature Christian woman can help guide you in preparing for a marital covenant (Titus 2:3-5).
- Join a women’s Bible study – Being around young women who are also growing in faith is a great place to learn.
- Read Christian marriage books – Relationship experts offer so much insight into romantic relationships and married life.
7. Pray for Your Future Husband
Even if you don’t know who he is yet, pray for the fine man God is preparing for you.
- Pray for his spiritual growth and that he’ll be a good husband.
- Ask God to shape you into the best wife you can be.
- Trust God’s timing – Mr. Right will come in the ideal season.
Final Thoughts
Now that you know how to prepare to be a wife as a Christian, remember that this starts way before the wedding day. By deepening your faith, learning to serve, embracing biblical wisdom, and working on personal growth, you’ll be setting yourself up for the kind of marriage that honors God. Trust His plan, enjoy your single season, and make the most of this time—it’s a turning point in your journey toward a healthy marriage and a lifetime of love!
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