If there is an unwritten list of responsibilities we have as wives, I believe that speaking encouragement and love to our husbands is on that list. I was thinking about how I could be better at this lately. So I decided to make a list to share with everyone of encouraging things to tell your husband. That’s a two way street, by the way. But I’m writing to the women here, so I’ll stick to our side of the street.
Words are not the only way we should show love, but some genuine and thoughtful words can build our husbands up. And the more we build them up, the more confident they will feel in the relationship and in other aspects of their lives as well. I know some days you might be tempted to focus on the negative and I certainly don’t want you to say any of these things to him if they would be a lie. But trying to focus on the good you see in him and it will benefit both of you.
I made a list of 30 encouraging and loving things that you might be able to say to your husband. I challenge you to spend the next 30 days saying at least one uplifting thing to your husband every day. Use this list or make your own. Obviously you should be sure to say the things that actually apply to your husband/marriage. Highlight the positive! Let’s encourage our husbands daily to lead our marriages and families courageously.
Encouraging Things to Tell Your Husband Regularly

- I trust you
- I believe in you
- I’m so glad to be on your team
- I know you have this under control
- Thank you for working so hard for us
- Thank you for helping me
- You make me feel safe
- I’m proud to be your wife
- I liked the way you handled that (insert scenario)
- I need you
- You always know how to make me laugh
- You’re so handsome
- You’re such a strong person
- You understand me better than anyone else
- You’re my best friend
- I don’t know what I would do without you
- You’re my favorite person
- If anyone can do this (insert scenario), it’s you
- Thank you for leading our family
- You’re commitment to God inspires me to seek God more
- Thank you for putting up with me
- You’re right
- Thank you for anticipating things I need
- I appreciate you
- You’ve always been there for me through the hardest times
- You’re a great father
- I love coming home to you
- You could do anything
- You’re so smart
- I love you
I hope this list inspires you to make your own and join the challenge. It’s incredible what intentional and genuine words can do for someone and for your relationship. But remember, these are only words and we have to back them up with actions. If you tell your husband you trust him to build him up but then you demonstrate your lack of trust the next day, that’s only going to cause some problems. Keep the focus on truth and positivity, highlight the good and just have fun making your hubby feel great about himself.
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